I get asked this question a lot! So let's try and simplify things because we all know there are fakes out there  in any profession, preying on the grieving parent and others. Let us be smart about who we let into our energy space and our emotions.

THREE ELEMENTS THAT ARE A MUST IN MEDIUMSHIP

• Spirit Identification (Evidence of who they are speaking to)
• Details & Validations (Personal details, events and incidents that only YOU would know. These details could be funny memories, a thought you had recently, what you bought at the store, renovations to your home, anything that proves that the information is NOT GENERAL. The purpose of these little details is to show the authentication of the connection.) THIS IS  MAINLY SO YOU WILL LISTEN TO THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF THE READING: THE MESSAGE!
• THE MESSAGE: Why is the spirit here?  Does the spirit want to provide a healing message? Reveal details about a passing that were not known? Offer an opinion, warning or message to a loved one? Trying to take care of unfinished business or just say hello?  There is usually always a REASON the spirit is there. Most of the time your child would never miss an opportunity to let you know they are ok and chat with you. 

THINGS TO LOOK OUT FOR

• A Medium who claims to be able to go “get those” on the other side. 
• A Medium who provides a lot of OPINIONS and not objective details. Beware of those who insert their own spiritual beliefs, insight, or opinions in readings.
• A Medium who is arrogant, self righteous, not very empathic or sympathetic, or who claims to be a religious guru. (THIS ONE IS IMPORTANT! )
• A Medium who is still active in an addiction with a drug of choice
• A Medium who is reading for the purpose of their ego and not for the purpose of service!
• A Medium who is vague or choppy in the connection, or who bounces from topic to topic, you should feel you are in a flow.
• ALWAYS TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS

Offered up with love and light in lieu of recent experiences 
Be WELL and stay alert! 

After I lost my son AJ, over 11 years ago now I wondered if it is even possible to heal after child loss. The answer is simple, you don't get a choice. You will heal or you will die.

This group, through countless experiences has taught me that life goes on with or without you. You must make a conscious decision to help yourself.

This group is not for the faint of heart. There are plenty of grief groups out there but the Admin team at VOOA helps to ensure that every parent has survival tools. We have someone on call 24/7 for peace of mind and heart when those thoughts hit especially during the early days. As our members get further along the become the on call support for others and do the giving back. We get down and dirty personal here unlike other groups. 

We found that becoming accustomed to hearing spirit is not unique and happens to most whether it be in dreams, a thought that hits your brain or a real live voice in your ear. The Admin team puts together many learnings experiences from professionals who give from their hearts just for our members. 

Many members have found purpose through this group and have gone on to help others in various ways. Beyond all else, unbreakable friendships have happened through the connections in this group. No matter what the members go on to do to fulfill a purpose in their child's memory, they still come back to this group where it all started. 

If you know a bereaved parent who is willing to make strides forward and learn, feel free to send them along. Its not a pretty road but one that is not impossible either. 

​Be well <3